Asking for help...

One thing I learned early on in being a widow... I can't do it alone, I need to ask for help. This was not an easy thing to learn, as I am someone who is very independent. I hate acknowledging I can't do something on my own. But looking at my list of goals and to do lists I have realized I am to that point where I need help. So this blog post is my in direct way of asking friends and family who see this post for help.

My house... I need help cleaning and organizing. Sure I have kids who help, and they do. But it is like pulling teeth to get them to do the basics, and I am to the point I need to sort through some of the boxes that are piled in my basement from other moves. And as  for myself, I need motivation to do it, someone offering to help might be just that.

My cars... my dad has offered as well as my brother and cousin... my problem is I need a car NOW and I am to the point where both my cars are slowing falling apart, I get one working to be a back up while the other is fixed, and before it can be fixed the back up is slipping again.

Weight/exercise... I have really been good about exercise, I have been taking dance classes each week the last couple weeks... but I need someone who encourages me to eat right. I am not good at fixing and planning dinners so far too often it turns into takeout... which is not healthy nor cheap. There was a point in my married life I was good at this... I just need to get back to that point. But someone to help encourage me would be awesome...

Budget... someone who is good with budgeting should sit with me and help me make a reasonable one. I am too impulsive.

Kids schedules... This next year with the girls going to a charter school I will need help with carpools, as well as a couple days of help with Clay and Bren... (Or help getting the older two to hurry and get their licenses... I tried to put it in their hands, thinking it would motivate them, but it hasn't. When I bring it up they get annoyed... I haven't minded too much because it would increase insurance, and my whole car situation)

Lastly help getting myself out... I know part of this falls on me, but I find myself spending far too much time online, in front of the TV, or in bed. I have been good and taken my anti depressants.. but I think it is more than simply depression, it is grieving as well. I miss the social me who got out with friends regularly, who went to dinner groups, etc.

Also if there is anything else you see I may need help with but neglected to ask... just ask, or step up and do it.

Help, Thanks... day 128